I want to get more done in my life. There’s this cliche phrase that’s been echoing in my head for a while: “You have the same amount of hours in the day as Beyonce”. While that may be true, what you don’t have is the resources, network and talent that Beyonce has (but who's to say, maybe you do).
Since we can’t get more time, the next best thing is to organize the time that we do have. No one is going to build our aspirations for us. Everyone wants their big break. Especially in the creative field, there is this notion that someday you will “make it” and “get famous”. I think this notion is not only false, but it discredits the day to day work that is required to achieve your goals. It's not flashy or shareworthy, but it's meaningful. The process is far more valuable than the idea of a projection to fame. That’s why we shake our heads at people who buy followers on Instagram, or use bots to comment emojis on your photos. It’s not real, and neither is instant success.
That being said, how do you get serious about what you love?
It seems like there's such a great divide of knowledge, resources and experience between those who have made it, and those who are struggling.
While I can’t say that I have mastered my craft completely, I am around people who have, or who are working towards it. Here's what I've picked up along the way:
1. Identify Your Priorities
I’m going to call this, “Put your money where your mouth is”. I’ve found that people have no shortage of goals,which isn’t a surprise to me because neither do I. However, often times there is a gap between where people say they want to spend their time and how they actually spend their time. The first step is taking time to assess your goals, and priorities and make sure that your time and your resources is going towards achieving those goals. It’s important to be intentional about not spending as much time on social media, or watching TV, and insteading allocating that time to working on your craft. That leads us to step two.
Set Small Goals
Often times when we have large goals like, “Lose 10 pounds” “Learn a language in 1 year”, it’s disheartening when we don’t reach them. Create room for failure, and embrace your failure. Your failure is what will teach you. Expect yourself to fail, but set yourself up for success
Do It Daily
You’d be surprised how hard it is to do something you think you love, every single day. You want to make your craft a habit, in the same way that you brush your teeth every morning, or take a shower. Mastery takes time.
Build Your Relationships
You never know when someone in your network will open a door to a job, internship or a beneficial connection. Note, there is a difference between using people, and genuinely investing in your relationships. There is no formula for good relationships, because each person is their own unique formula of experience and characteristics. More important than being successful is being kind, generous and honestly interested in others and what they have to say. It’s important to invest carefully, some people take more than they give. But when you find relationships that bring you life, make sure to put time into them. Being generous with others is never a bad choice.
Celebrate Your Success
Trying to grind on the daily can be exhausting, and can even lead to burnout if you don’t make time to refresh, relax and recover. Make sure to designate time for yourself, to write, draw, talk with friends, and just chill out a bit. Gratitude is one of the best mood lifters, and it has a positive impact on those around you.
I cannot emphasize enough the importance of knowing yourself. The more you know yourself, the better you will be able to manage your emotions, relationships, career and more. Journaling, meditation and exercise are all good practices that help to center the mind and work through difficult thoughts and concepts. Find what works for you, and practice it.
Just some things that have been helping me! Would love to know what works for you too, or if you have any advice. Let me know!
All photos by Bokehsharp photography